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how to talk about sex toys with your partner

I never thought I would be talking about sex toys with my partner, but here I am, diving into the subject headfirst. I have to admit that when the topic of sex toys were first brought up, I was taken aback. I had heard that couples often use sex toys but to me it felt like it was something out of my comfort zone. Still, I wanted to keep an open mind and listen to what my partner had to say about it.

I was surprised to learn that my partner had actually researched and found several different types of sex toys. He was so excited to share his newfound knowledge with me! I started to feel more open to the idea when I learned that these toys were intended to spice up our sex life and could be used in a variety of ways. I could tell he was genuinely interested in exploring and that made me feel more comfortable.

To make myself more comfortable, I decided that I would take a look at these toys before we chose one that we would use together. This gave us both the chance to see what the different kinds of toys were, as well as giving us a chance to express what our likes and dislikes were without the pressure of being in the moment. Plus, I felt much more prepared for our next exploration.

After doing some online browsing together, we had already narrowed the list down to three different toys. We chatted about each one in turn, discussing pros and cons, and how we wanted to use each one. We also talked about what materials the toy was made of, and what kind of lubricants would be an appropriate option for each toy. This made me feel much more confident with the choices we were making.

Then came the moment of truth – the first time we used a sex toy together. It felt weird and a little daunting but at the same time, exciting. With a bit of trepidation, I allowed myself to be guided by my partner as we explored everything the toy had to offer. Though the sensations were different and new, it was still strangely comforting as my partner and I moved together.

I had to admit, it felt really good. The newness of the toy really added something special to our lovemaking, and really enhanced the pleasure we were already experiencing. I was grateful to my partner for bringing this into our lives and giving us the opportunity to create a deeper connection, all while having fun.

There’s no doubt in my mind that using sex toys is something all couples should get the chance to do. Whether it’s for the added pleasure or for the bond it creates, all couples can benefit from sex toys and the feeling of being able to explore together. Now that I know what I know, I’m looking forward to the next time we can use a sex toy together.

Now that we have explored how to talk about sex toys with our partner, let’s look at the different types of sex toys available. Common types of sex toys include vibrators, dildos, anal plugs, ring tops, and even wearable items such as thongs. There are even sex toys specifically designed for added stimulation for both partners to enjoy. Different materials used in sex toys such as silicone, jelly, leather, glass, rubber, and metal often offer unique sensations and experiences for both partners.

When it comes to selecting a sex toy, couples should take into consideration the level of comfort they both feel with the toy. Consider the size of the toy, the type of material it is made from, as well as the level of stimulation desired. With some online research, couples can explore the different types of sex toys in the market today. It is also important for couples to review the instructions carefully if their sex toy requires some degree of assembly.

When it comes to maintaining sex toys, we should never forget the importance of hygiene. It is important to clean sex toys regularly and after each use. Companies that produce sex toys usually provide specific instructions on how to clean and maintain their products, so be sure to follow these instructions carefully. This includes keeping toys out of direct sunlight, away from extreme temperatures and away from moisture.

While talking about sex toys, it is also important to discuss the notion of safety in the bedroom. When introducing sex toys into the bedroom it is important to establish a verbal safety plan. It is essential that couples start by discussing limits and boundaries when it comes to sex toy use. This will help build a foundation of trust and comfort so that both partners can be sure they are exploring within boundaries they both feel comfortable with.

Choosing sex toys together can create a fun and memorable experience for both partners. When exploring sex toys, couples should start by talking openly about their individual desires and expectations. Once basic expectations are established, it is important to share a commitment to respect and honoring each other’s boundaries. This can develop a strong foundation of trust and connection that couples can take pleasure in and explore further.

Talking about sex toys can also create some exciting opportunities to explore fantasy and play. When fantasizing, both partners should discuss and consider what fantasies might be suitable for them to explore, while also remembering to factor in safety and respect. Specific role-play, physical contact and clothing, as well as verbal communication can all be used to create an exciting and pleasurable experience when exploring fantasy.

From there, couples can then explore different ways to use sex toys. Solo and mutual masturbation can both be enjoyable experiences and can introduce new and different ways for partners to explore pleasure together. With the introduction of sex toys, couples can explore teasing and sensation play, all while taking the time to communicate and express feedback to each other. This can create a safe and secure environment that will help couples continue to deepen their bond.

It is also important to keep in mind that safety should remain a priority even when exploring and playing with sex toys. Both partners should be sure to communicate when it comes to the introduction of tools and toys to the bedroom. Couples can also experiment with different levels of stimulation, including different speeds and pressure with sex toys to ensure that both partners remain safe and that boundaries are respected.

At the end of the day, when it comes to using sex toys, couples should always be sure to practice comfort, pleasure and respect. Talking openly about sex toys can help couples understand each other’s needs and explore different sensations and experiences of pleasure together safely and securely. With the right guidance, couples can begin to explore each other’s bodies in new ways and create a safe and respectful environment for shared exploration.